Well worded....No need to puke all over yourself :D It is a wonderfully written post. I have realized you can be soft without being naive. Not just that, but when you don't hold yourself responsible for somebody else's shortcomings, you will find it easier to let go without losing sleep over it. For eg: In personal relationships, if you are kind and honest and somebody still deceives you, it isn't something that should gnaw on your conscience. I just look at it that way. They lose a wonderful alliance, you just lose a trickster. Don't be too naive in money matters though. That is a totally different ball game.